HERE ARE KEYS TO A LASTING MARRIAGE

Marriage is the work of a lifetime. Each day brings a small opportunity to cultivate the virtue and to grow one’s marriage. 

Is there trouble that is making you struggle to grow in your marriage? Are you worn out by the kids running around, or just looking to reignite the love you once had for each other? Is your marriage doing well, but you want to make it even better!


Whatever the case, it’s no secret that when you feel connected with your spouse, you work better as a team and are more in tune with what God is teaching you. In the chaos of life, purposeful time with your spouse can be difficult to find. But making small changes in how you treat each other, communicate, and approach conflict can make all the difference in your relationship. And at the end of the day, we know Jesus Christ can bring true unity into any marriage, no matter where you’re at right now.

Here are 12 Keys To A Lasting Marriage that will be of great help to you. Enjoy.

1. Beware of marital advice from single people. Regardless of how sincere their advice may be, most of it is theoretical and not derived from real life experiences. If you really need Godly advice, seek it from God-fearing, impartial and prayerful mature couples whose resolve has been tested by time and shaped by trials.

Read: Preparing Your Heart for Marriage here

2. Marriage flourishes when the couple work together as a team; when both husband and wife decide that winning together is more important than keeping score.
Good marriages don't just happen. They are a product of hard work.

3. Your children are watching you and forming lasting opinions on love, commitment, and marriage based on what they see in you. Give them hope. Make them look forward to marriage.

4. Husbands: The reason why other women look attractive is because someone is taking good care of them. Grass is always green where it is watered. Instead of drooling over the green grass on the other side of the fence, work on yours and water it regularly. Any man can admire a beautiful woman, but it takes a true gentleman to make a woman admirable and beautiful.

5. When a husband puts his wife first above everyone and everything except God, it gives his wife the sense of security and honor that every wife hungers for.

Barrack Obama enjoying the company of his wife

6. A successful marriage doesn't require a big house, a perfect spouse, a million dollars or an expensive car. You can have all the above and still have a miserable marriage. A successful marriage requires honesty, undying commitment and selfless love and Jesus at the center of it all.

7. Pray for your spouse every day; in the morning, in the afternoon and at evening. Don’t wait until there is a problem. Don’t wait until there is an affair. Don’t wait until something bad happens. Don’t wait until your spouse is tempted. Shield your spouse with prayer and cover your marriage with the fence of prayer.

8. The people you surround yourself with have a lot of influence on your marriage. Friends can build or break your marriage; choose them wisely.

9. One spouse cannot build a marriage alone when the other spouse is committed to destroying it. Marriage works when both husband and wife work together as a team to build their marriage.

10. Don't take your spouse for granted. Don't take advantage of your spouse's meekness and goodness. Don't mistake your spouse's loyalty for desperation. Don't misuse or abuse your spouse's trust. You may end up regretting after losing someone that meant so much to you.

11. There is nothing that threatens the security of a man than the thought of another man competing for the attention and affection of his wife. Nothing is more painful. Nothing is more disrespecting. Nothing is more insulting. Nothing is more belittling and degrading to your partner when you are a cheat.

12. Dear wife, Don't underestimate the power of the tongue on your marriage. The tongue has the power to crush your marriage or build it up. Don't let the Devil use your tongue to kill your spouse's image, self-confidence and aspirations. Let God use your tongue to build up your marriage and bless and praise your spouse.

e.a. Olatoye is committed to helping you and your marriage grow stronger. We implore you to send this to as many couple as you know, love and care about. Remain fresh in your marriage.