A TWISTED VIEW OF MARRIAGE IN AFRICA

Vandello and Bosson (2013, 102) in their observation wrote that, by adulthood, men are expected to demonstrate their "real man" status by eschewing femininity from their behavioral, linguistic, and emotional repertoires whereas no comparable "antimasculinity" mandate dictates women's experiences.

There are funny and interesting lifestyles worldwide that are integral parts that dictate customs on various ceremonies, marriages, birth and death. In Africa alone, we have over three thousand tribes and each of them has their peculiar customs.

My focus in this article is on Marriage, African Marriage and their archaic Marriage customs of reducing their wives to their glorified maid or slave.

In Nigeria, People will see a man washing his clothes and instead of minding their business, they'll say "Ahh Oga Ejike, go and marry so you'll stop washing".

They'll see a man cooking and be like "Bro Ade, you need to get married so you can stop cooking".

A mother will look at his 35years old son who cannot wash his own boxers (Boxers, Briefs & Shorts/Underwear), boil water for tea or even make his own bed.... a 35years old that cannot take his plates to the kitchen after eating and tell him "James, you need to settle down....get a woman to take care of you". 

In different ways, the society subconsciously tell men that they don't marry women for any reason other than cleaning, cooking and childbearing.

I begin to wonder, does the average Nigerian man need a wife or a glorified maid?

Many women look three times their age because of stress and exhaustion. 

You sit down in front of the TV with your phone and watching your wife working until she's about to pass out.

Men, who told you that it is wrong to wash your own plates?

Who told you that it is wrong to wash your own clothes?

Who told you that it is wrong to dress your bed when you wake up?

What will it take to help your partner with chores in the house?

If a man wanted to be adopted as a child to be pet, pampered, fed and nursed. Then, he need not to seek marriage, he should rather offer himself up for an adoption at a motherless home to be pick up or not marry at all and employ aids that will attend to him.

If you want a wife.....then get a wife. If you have the means( money), get house help/maid to assist your wife to reduce the workload at home.

Do not get married because you want someone to do all your chores. if you are getting married get married to a partner that will help you fulfil your purpose given to you by your Creator.

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